instagram moms i love

Yes, instagram is saturated and overwhelming but we are all on it. Probably more than we'd like to admit. What I'll admit is my weird relationship to "mommy blogging." I want to talk motherhood and show the world my sweet son but it's very difficult for me to post pictures of him. I find it a bit invasive at times and wonder how will this affect him (and our family) in the long run, if at all. Motherhood and social media is something I think about often. How do these words collide and how are they influencing each other? What expectations do new moms have of themselves when they see other moms on the 'gram? Are there legit dangerous implications to the postpartum psyche? Hmm. I'll keep thinking about this and maybe expand further in a post as my thoughts develop. For now, I do want to share some moms I find charming, funny, helpful, resourceful and just straight up #momgoals.

Meet Charmaine Daudu aka @charmise. She's one of the first mommies I started following, simply because her level of creativity and authenticity is sky high. I love her style DIYs and #charmisechat Instagram stories where she talks about staying true to yourself (clique but we all need to hear it once in a while!) and being a mom to her sweet son Zende. What I love most however, is how she does not take herself so seriously and is super funny! One minute she'll post a picture all diva'd up and the next she'll bare her skin: no make up and in pjs.

I found Becky aka @goodfortheswole when I was pregnant with boy wonder and needed some inspo workouts that were safe and effective. Immediately, I dug her approach and commitment. Her videos were super helpful (even if I didn't always do them, they were fun to watch!) and I love her food suggestions, too. I'm always surprised at how she manages to keep her blogging up with a toddler as well as working out while pregnant again. She just had baby #2 and I'm excited to see how she juggles two babies, food prep and working out this time around.

What's there not to love about Adrienne aka @dogwoodmoon? Her images and words are exquisite. She appeals to my 16 yr old poetry writing self with my 28 yr old mom searching for self at the same time. There is a quiet assurance in her words. I love going to her page to read her reminders. Seriously, go read her words and see through her eyes.

And then there's Monet Hambrick aka @thetravelingchild, not only mothering two beautiful black babies but taking them all around the world. There's this ridiculous stereotype that black folk do not travel and that once you have kids, traveling is almost non existent. Not for this family - they demystify both of these claims. They do it often and beautifully. Monet often shares tips and giveaways to encourage families to see the globe with their littles. Boy wonder has already taken flights to Hawaii and different parts of California and I used Monet's tips to ease my nerves along the way.

If there is a word that comes to mind when I think of Lindsey Bliss aka @doulabliss, it's strength. It's no sueprise why she has this tattooed on her belly: she birthed 7 babies. Twins twice. Yes, you read that correctly. Not only is she mothering in Brooklyn, she's a loved doula and co-owns Carriage House Birth. I love her #grittyparenting posts because they show the truth 'instagram mommying' hides. On top of that, she wrote a book (!!!!) - The Doulas Guide for Empowering your Birth, and it comes out in a few days! What magic you ask? Bliss magic.


Who are some 'instagram moms' you love and follow? Do you have complicated feelings like me? Tell me, let's talk :).

being in this skin after birth

Where do I even begin...

Dry skin. Bumpy. Discolored. Moles and skin tags. All kinds of weird stuff while I was pregnant happened and continued to happen even one year postpartum. Ugh. This part is also hard. No longer did my skin feel or look smooth and like my hair, how do I even have time to THINK about what I could do to make it better. Again, I knew this is all hormonal changes occurring but sheesh, can I get a break?!

Finally, after telling myself I need to get it together, I've managed to come up with some rituals to rejuvenate my skin.

Before Showering
Dry Brush. Yes, its a craze and tradition with its own merit. It works! The only thing I need to do is REMEMBER to do it before I hop in the shower. I use this brush.

Showering
I love hot showers but truth be told, its super drying especially these winter months. So I keep the water warm. I also bought this shower filter while I was pregnant. If I feel like my skin needs a little more TLC, I make a DIY sugar scrub with organic dark brown sugar, olive oil, coconut oil and add whatever essential oil is calling to me at the moment.

After Showering
While my skin is still moist, I use almond oil all over or a heavier moisturizer like an argan oil body cream.

For my face, these are the products I've been using. Thankfully, it is the one area on my body that has not driven me crazy and I think it's because of these:

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I wash off my make up with Andalou Naturals 1000 Roses Cleansing Foam or if it just feels icky.

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I use the Acure Organics Pore Clarifying Facial Scrub if I feel my skin a bit dry.

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Mandatory and daily. Mario Badescu Facial Spray With Aloe, Herb and Rosewater is great to use as a toner.

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And to set everything, I use @sunkissalba (fellow Dominican! hey girl hey!) Derma E Radiant Glow Face Oil. I also use this oil after my hair dries to give it a little shine.

What I've also found is that just water to cleanse is really nice. So I rotate which products I use and sometimes give my face a break and don't use anything but water.

 

Anyway, what are you using? I'm curious how postpartum has affected you and what you've done about it. Leave a comment below!